Sitting in the church waiting for the funeral to start

By Claire / a few months ago

it became glaringly obvious what the consequencesof being
overweight/fat/obese can have on those around you.My Mum`s sister had always been overweight since I couldremember, big eater, big boozer and to be honest,when she was younger it didnt really stop her doing anything in the day to day activities of living.However I can
always remember during the Queens Jubilee in 1977, I had chicken pox really bad, and the doctorcame to see me. After I had the once over, he told my Mum that her sister needed to do something about her weight, cos she was showing the classic signs of obesity related illnesses, higher blood pressure etc. So scroll forward 20 plus years and my Aunty never tookany of the advice from the doctor, or my Mum (most people never do if they are told by their nearest and dearest) as she just continued to pile on the weight, as its so easy to do as you get older.Like the frog coming to the boil in the pan of water, it kinda creeps up on you, then BANG !Hypertension led to bad circulation, poor mobility, morepills more treatment, more hospital visits.I
honestly lost track of exactly what was going on cos therewas always something wrong with her, in and out of hospitalwith one thing or another, it must have felt to the poor ladyshe was living in the hospital.So in the Funeral……my cousin
basically summed up the last 7 years of her life as HELL. Yup there was several times when we were not sure she was going to pull through, had the last rights read toher, several amputations of parts of her leg asher circulation was so poor and diabetes was unrelenting.So 7 years of hell before she passed away.So that was also 7 years of hell for her daughter, who lookedafter her and tended to her needs. An amazing strong lady I truly admire her dedication and love.7 years of worry and frustration for all the other children in the family as well as her brothers and sister.But still the lesson isn’t learnt, my cousin, was a strong anddoting daughter to her mum, is following in her mothers footsteps and is morbidly obese. So the important message hasn’t been understood and acted upon.Don`t get me wrong, we each get a genetic hand of cards dealt tous which we cannot change, but we can do as much as physicallypossible to reduce those odds
ourselves.The unrelenting truth though is the more overweight you are, the greater your chance of horrible things happening to you as you get older.What does annoy me, is the fact we have grown accustomed to accepting and
ignoring the above fact and its consequencesand often doubting its truth.Facts are this ….. Approximately 7 out of 10 adults in the UK are overweight.Don`t get me wrong I love the fact that there are
more women outthere who are rebelling against the super skinny models, airbrushing and rallying the cause for being real women andloving ourselves, but please dont dress this up that there areno health risks to being overweight cos its just not true.The other thing I would say is this being fit and fat is no getout of jail card either. Its wrong to assume cos your fit youwont fall for obesity related diseases, yes your will be fitterbut your fat doesn’t turn into “fit fat” if your exercising.Plus when your younger, your not going to potentially show thesigns of
obesity related issues, it tends to creep up on you inyour late 40s and 50s. So for me as an older parent, I want to see my kids grow up and be well and as healthy as I can.I want to play an active role as I possibly can with potential grand children I may have as well.Plus from my own selfish reasons I want to enjoy the autumnof my life rather that it being a continuous conveyor belt ofhospital appointments.I want to be well, I want to live in the
moment and look to a healthy future for as long as possible, so I refuse to growold and sick gracefully !Having had gall bladder issues in the past, feeling so ill, in so much pain and very anxious as your life is in their hands,waiting in an A andE for hr upon hr to work out what was wrong with me, it taught me a very important lesson.Also being a woman of “that age” ie nearly 50, that`s when stuff startsto go wrong if your not looking after yourself, as I see it in so many women who come to me for help to bring them back to life so to speak.So its not about attaching a label to obesity,like lazy, ugly etc, its more about realising the risks and the consequences go way beyond you. Claire
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